I made my child pay me for his lunch

My first kid is a CEO-in-training. He’s head-strong, has a strong sense of justice, and wants to do what’s right. This is just how God made him.

He’s gotten pickier and pickier over time with his food, so I’ve tried a few things to help him eat. This is hard with a kid like him. Manipulation and coercion don’t work – not that I really want to do that, but he knows every tactic and calls it like it is. “You just want to make me eat these vegetables.” “Yes, you got me. I want you to be healthy.”

For a week, I planned to have awesome desserts available. If he didn’t eat dinner he didn’t get dessert. It wasn’t made to be a big deal, it’s just a consequence. This doesn’t change eating habits, you know. It just makes the adults take on more calories. Haha!

I tried telling him he was in charge of his body and I trust him to want to put the right balance of things into it. This half works since he takes some pride in doing the right things.

Today I offered my children lunch, and he looked at the burgers I was making and asked me if it tastes like Burger King. I said better. He said “I don’t want it with those things in it.” Those things he is referring to are parsley. I told him how highly coveted my burgers are on this Earth and how they are considered a gourmet delicacy. He said “okay maybe I’ll just try one.” Then I said, “well, I don’t know if I can really share this with you. Because you don’t appreciate my food enough. Maybe I’ll let you buy one.” His curiosity was piqued. He said “how much?” I said “I’ll give you a family discount. One dollar. But if you weren’t family, it would be $15.” He said “okay”. And then he went on and on about how delicious it was.

I guess I have to make this kid buy his dinners from now on. Maybe we should have a work-eat-economy around this house.

I mean, my burgers are bomb.

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The last 5%

My husband and I just rallied energy for an hour between 12:30-1:30am to tidy up. Since I’ve had small children, I realize one hour of work when children are sleeping is the equivalent of 5 hours of work when they are awake.

I had an emotional day. I thought we might have to put one of our dogs to sleep. It turns out I could choose to spend twice as much money to do a blood panel. If I find out he’s got kidney failure or something, or his treatment plan is too costly, then we will most likely need to put him down in the coming year. Otherwise, perhaps we could just change his diet and some of our care. He will be 16 soon. He has advanced dental plaque, arthritis, some neurological decline, and slight cataracts. He’s more ornery than ever. He’s a crotchety old man, indeed. But he was still my first baby after I left my childhood home.

I’ve been doing a training this week. 1:45 hours of recorded video has taken me multiple hours to comb through, and I have two more to do. I’m glad I’m not just flossing over the information. The last five minutes of the training was good for me to hear.

I’m sharing these vignettes because I’ve come to realize that I believe the last 5% of our effort can make all the difference in our lives.

Perhaps I try to be a person with high standards. I’m distractible though, so while I start great projects with grit and passion, if I’m not done in a certain amount of time, I peter right on out. Like the baby blanket I’m crocheting for my home. I really enjoy doing it. But then I run out of yarn, and I forget about the project. Many drafts I have started… important ones… get left unfinished, and it’s a shame because I think the information could benefit others. My house gets so cluttered and things misplaced because we won’t walk the next five feet to put it away in its proper place. If I don’t model the ethic of “finishing” to my children they will have a hard time learning it.

I finally have formed the habit of making my bed everyday after over three and a half decades of life. I’d like to always leave my kitchen sink spotless and counters clear too. The problem is that when the dishwasher is clean but not emptied, my husband and I leave dirty dishes for later until the dishwasher is clean. It takes about 10-15 minutes to empty the dishwasher, all in, and if both of us work together it takes 7. It takes 15 minutes for me to clear and dirty sink, and 10 minutes to dry and put those new dishes away. However if the kids are awake, it takes 3 hours, because the baby is at my feet, or on the dishwasher door, or taking things out of my drawers.

I wish I could take naps during the day. Since I’ve had little ones my body and my brain just deny me actual sleep. If I could sleep during the day, staying up so late at night wouldn’t be so painful. Also, this is hard because I’m trying to wake up around 5:30 or 6am in order to get a head start on the day. That means shower and get ready for the day, listen to or read the Bible, pray, journal, or work in some way such as prep for homeschool, pack bags for going out, organize something, think through something, or cook or meal prep. I digress. I was just sharing some of my short-comings that result in not completing the last 5%.

In conclusion, I am going to try to develop the habit of finishing the last 5%. Will you tell me about how you accomplish this very critical last step in your tasks and goals?

Notes and Take-aways from Andrew Pudewa’s Teaching Boys and Other Children Who Would Rather Build Forts All Day

I thoroughly enjoy whenever Andrew Pudewa speaks. Here are notes from this recent webinar: “Teaching Boys and Other Children Who Would Rather Build Forts All Day”. This talk was about the neurological differences between male and female. He answers the questions like how we sense and feel differently, and how that changes our teaching. He also discusses motivation and two wonderful secret teaching weapons we all should have. Thank you Andrew!

FIRST PART: Neuro differences between male and female. How we sense and feel differently, and how that changes our teaching.

Hearing & Attention: Most boys need louder sounds to attenuate than girls. This is a measurable studied phenomenon that starts differentiating in newborns. Girls can hear 3x softer than boys on the decimal scale in newborns. At 1-3 years old, girls can hear up to 10x softer than boys on the decimal scale. Barometric pressure, appetite, sleep, temperature, and other issues impact hearing. If you can’t hear what’s going on, you would have a hard time paying attention! If you talk loud enough to engage the boys, the girls might think you’re screaming, yikes! SO, try talking more directly, closer, and with a louder voice to boys.

Vision & Attention: Most males detect speed and direction with greater accuracy, while women detect color and texture with greater accuracy or vibrancy. Convergence of vision, speed, direction, color and texture is how we see and process visual input. This also impacts what we see more easily. Boys prefer to look at things they can see better (movement). Boys tend to draw things in motion… verbs. Girls prefer to look at things they love like horses, flowers, and scenery.

It also impacts the way we perceive the world and write about it. Descriptors, or key words, for males tend to be verbs and adverbs. Descriptors, or key words, for females tend to be nouns and adjectives. You can talk to a boy with an attitude change when you talk to a boy using descriptors that is more in line with their personalities (i.e. “Do you want me to help you add more details to that story?” VS “Do you want me to help you add more action to that story?”.

Stress and Attention. Males have a quicker response to stress with fight or flight, which is regulated by body movement in the sympathetic nervous system. Women have a slower response to stress, and their bodies lower the heart rate and blood flow because the parasympathetic system engages first. We could be giving mixed messages to boys. Boys under stress (stressful work) should stand up and move! Stand at the counter and do your work. Girls under stress may do better curled up in a beanbag when they’re tackling difficult work.

Temperature and Attention. Girls learn best where it’s a little warmer, while boys learn best when it’s a little cooler.

SECOND PART: Motivation. 4 Forms of Relevancy, 3 Laws of Motivation and 2 Secret Weapons

Learning needs to be (1) applicable, (2) meaningful, (3) interesting and (4) relevant in some way, it’s easier to learn. If something is relevant, it’s easier to learn. If it’s irrelevant it’s really hard to learn.

There are 4 Forms of Relevancy according to Pudewa:

  1. Intrinsic: it’s part of who you are… like how boys like weapons and tools. If your children are REALLY interested in something, capitalize on it. Give them opportunities in every way to learn about that topic, because the learning will be very profound to them.
  2. Inspired: it’s environmental… for example, if your family hikes, so you hike all the time, then you will know lots about hiking. Or if your dad loves music, and you want to impress him, so you learn music so you can relate to him. Work hard to inspire your children with those things we love and are inspired by, and outsource the things that you don’t love.
  3. Contrived (games): for example, things you don’t naturally love but you need to learn them anyhow. Create a game to make the learning topic interesting, and have one that’s possible to win, and one in which you experience wins and losses if you have any kind of economic game. Ex: Get Mom’s dollar: A game where the kids fix their own spelling errors. They earn a certain amount based on how many errors they find and fix. Boys seem to be especially wired to these kinds of economic games, and competitive games.
  4. Enforced: you must learn this or you must suffer a penalty. But you won’t get the real learning in this scenario. Students learn fast when they choose to learn.

The three laws of motivation:

  1. Children LIKE to do what they CAN do. And they are always getting better at things, so there is joy in their lives! Allocate 60-80% of their education time learning here, and help them get better.
  2. Children LIKE to do what they THINK they can do. Once they try and are successful a few times, then they like it! Allocate 20-40% of their education time learning here, and help them be successful.
  3. Children HATE to do what they THINK they CANNOT do. Children prefer punishment over failure if they believe they can’t be successful in it. How sad! Kids can fail more than adults can, and are willing to try again. Allocate almost 0% of their education time learning here wherever possible. Instead, back off and go to a simpler level of complexity where they did have success, and when it’s easy, then move up.

Two Secret Weapons.

One, the emotional bank account matters. ‘Deposit love into the child, so you can live off the interest’ – Suzuki. Build a child up so much, so that when you need to offer a correction, the child can sustain it. No one likes constant correction. Balance the correction. Offer 10 positives before adding 1 negative.

Two, the power of a smile is STRONG!! Be unconditionally excited and appreciative of your child’s efforts! Treat your own kids like you treat other peoples’ kids if you have to, in order to find more patience! Be grateful, acknowledge, see their effort!

His other tidbit – Wow!: Primary grades are when learning decisions are made (K-2), so it’s better to segregate by gender. A learning decision answers the questions like this: “Can I please my teacher or not?”; “Am I good or bad at something?”

For more, see books by Leonard Sax for more (though Pudewa doesn’t agree with everything Sax says):

  • Why Gender Matters
  • Boys Adrift, 
  • Girls on the Edge
  • The Collapse of Parenting

P.S. Pudewa warns not to leave these books laying around the house if your children read anything left around 🙂

Yay for chores!

I am starting to switch discipline methods with my oldest son, my firstborn, who seems to have outgrown spankings. We are taking away “robot building” privileges for periods of time, but even more exciting, is this: for poor attitudes and arguing, I am assigning chores, during which he can pray about having better attitudes and accepting what we say. Oh yea, if food is flicked onto the floor, the kids get the honor of sweeping and mopping. We will kick these poor habits one way or another.

There. That is all.

I am so happy my house is getting clean. Clear consequences and clear expectations equal better obedience.

The perfect homeschool week

I’m imagining the perfect homeschool week for my family next year.

We would start every day with a healthy breakfast and clean up the dishes right away. We would brush our teeth, and make our beds. Then the kitchen would close.

We would worship God, read the Bible, and do a character study. Then we would go on a walk and picnic somewhere outside.

We would come home by 2pm for rest time. My baby would take a nap. Family story time would begin, with memory work, and art lessons. Clean up to the CC Timeline Song. Prep dinner together, and kids set the table. A little more schoolwork done.

At dinner, tell Dad about our character lesson, play “stump Daddy” with memory work, recite scripture, listen to Dad’s lesson and devotion.

Clean up dinner and table to timeline song.

Reading time before bedtime. Memory work. Reading lesson for our middle child would happen again.

Grocery shopping would happen on Wednesday afternoons. Kids will get lessons in counting money and reading food labels. Meal prep and house cleaning would happen on Thursdays with help from children. Friday we would have afternoon showers and bath, with a last minute spruce up, and the table will get set nicely for a Christian version of Shabbat dinner using easy disposable ware, Saturday’s meal would be prepped and put into the crock pot, and Friday’s roast would go into the oven in a disposable tin. We would entertain friends on Friday night and see how we can minister to others.

Saturday we would have a prepared breakfast such as fruit, and quiche or bekoras. We would skip making our beds. We would go play outside somehow, and we would enjoy a large afternoon meal which I had already prepared the day before.

Sunday, we would start the week refreshed and ready to start again. I would use Sunday afternoon for homeschool prep, meal planning, and bulk item grocery shopping.

Winding down first grade and ramping up my preschooler

I’m already focused on next year’s schooling. This is a result of all the homeschool publishers running sales, and awaiting the new Foundations Guide from Classical Conversations (CC). We are closing out our second full year of CC, and our fifth year of homeschooling, since I ambitiously and unnecessarily started my own homeschool cooperative with some close friends when my firstborn was just 18 months old in Atlanta. It was a glorified play date, but it showed me the beauty of coops – close mom friends, like-minded people, the power of “scale” and positive peer pressure.

I had been in my own coop till my oldest was 4, but in two cities – Atlanta, then Rochester. Then I did two coops run by other people – loved it, and learned a lot! That last year in Rochester, I also did CC at home with just the music CDs for Cycle 1. Seeing the fruit of the teaching methodology, and knowing the benefit of community, I joined my first CC community when we moved to CA the next year for Cycle 2. And here we are ending Cycle 3. For these two years I’ve also belonged to another homeschool coop.

As I consider next year, I realize I’m juggling the needs of a 6.5 year old, 3.5 year old, and a rising toddler. For the first time, we get to repeat a Cycle (Cycle 1), and really add another learner to our one room schoolhouse (my rising 4 year old). As we ease our way into learning that has a little more rigor for my oldest, introducing “the same old” for my second (with a different learning style), and meeting the normal baby needs for my youngest, I have really met the word called “multi-tasking” in ways I hadn’t known it before. On most days my water intake is poor and I haven’t fully taken care of my own needs. I leave room for the fact that I’m coming out of the fog of having a newborn (who is now almost 14 months old), and every three months she leapfrogs her abilities and schedules shift.

All that to say, I’m closing out this year by maintaining my commitments, but I know I’m only doing just ONE coop next year – CC. I’m following God’s calling to downsize my life of activities and upsize my life in quality. I’m removing breadth in exchange for depth and balance. I’ve added a Shabbat dinner and it’s following sabbath rest – it has taken a lot of energy to do this, but it’s been worth it.

Over the summer, I will get down to the business of letter recognition and phonics for my preschooler, and big time lessons in obedience. Spelling, language lessons, handwriting, and creative storytelling for my rising second grader will capture his attention. We will work on drilling math memory too, for the basic arithmetic functions, and work diligently through the rest of first grade Singapore math while we learn abacus alongside together. We will maintain our priorities for learning the Bible, godly character, and scripture memory. And we will add back swimming. If I’m on top of it, we will finish first language lessons book 1, and song school Latin book 1 as well.

I will start building in an exercise and movement regimen for all of us. Right now, my children and husband get it but I’m missing out dearly. I will cut down on the sugar intake, and start cleansing our palates in quite a strict manner.

We will take advantage of the beautiful outdoors and hike and camp, and explore with friends. We will go whale watching, and elephant seal observing, and sea otter snooping. We will watch sunsets and see monarchs migrating. We will traipse through brush-land, and wade through marshlands. We will watch waves crashing and sit beside rivers. We will see plays and symphonies, ballets and orchestras. We will go on dates and have family days. We will be God’s creation and enjoy His creation and marvel at the work of His hands. The heavens declare the glory of God, The skies proclaim the work of His hands. We will exalt Him with our own works and words and adoration.

Piano is the only thing that doesn’t halt or change rhythms from the traditional school year to summer.

When school starts again, I will start my oldest in Veritas Press’ Ancient History and Old Testament & Genesis to Joshua Bible online programs, and we will do CC, spelling and math with more rigor. We will play more games. My middle child will learn how to read and I will learn how to have more balance, joy, and diligence.

In the meantime, we will worship the Lord God Almighty, and we will pray. We will ask God to order our days and plan our steps, because He already has done it. We will walk in obedience.

Easter Devotions, Traditions, Food and More

Hi all,
As you’re preparing for Easter Week, I thought you might enjoy some ideas. Don’t let them overwhelm you, either. I rarely send emails like this, however, Easter and Christmas are the most important holidays of the year.
1. DEVOTION
See the attached devotion from Billy Graham. As your kids get older and older, they will grow in their appreciation of devotions. If you want to make it more memorable, read it after the sun goes down in candlelight. We tend to read these things during dinner, while everyone is a captive audience.
2. MUSIC
Seeds Family Worship’s “Seeds of Easter” songs – what a great way to hear the Easter story and memorize the Word. See this sample. (You would memorize Rev 5:12, John 14:6, 1 John 5:11-12, Rom 5:8, Rom 6:23, John 3:16, Rom 8:38-39, and 2 Cor 5:17)
The Harrow Family’s CD: A New Commandment includes John 3:16 in “For God so Loved the World”, and John 14:6 in “I am the Way”, and John 14:23 in “If anyone loves me”
The Harrow Family’s CD: All Nations Shall Worship includes John 10:7-8 in “I am the Door”
In general, the Harrow Family and Seeds Family Worship are the two go to music choices for our family, and has helped all of us store God’s word in our hearts more joyfully and effectively. We play these every. single. day. in the background, or watch the videos during breakfast sometimes. Seeds Family Worship has videos with hand motions to some of the songs.

3. FOOD

Resurrection Rolls – melt butter and dip large marshmallows in the butter. Dip the marshmallow in equal parts cinnamon sugar. Wrap in a crescent roll. Bake according to the crescent roll directions. When your kids take a bite, they will see the tomb empty.
Resurrection Cake – Cut the tombs entrance out of the side of a cake. Make the tomb big enough to put a battery operated tea light inside.  Turn the light on right before you serve the cake after sundown. Take turns saying what Jesus’ sacrifice has meant to you this year. Each person should take a turn. Little kids who are too young for that, can tell you for what they are grateful. Close by saying a prayer thanking Jesus for dying on the cross for us and conquering death and sin so we can live forever with Him in freedom.
Easter Bread – http://www.laurainthekitchen.com/recipes/italian-easter-sweet-bread/ I add anise sometimes, but it’s not what everyone loves… it’s a licorice flavor.

4. TRADITIONS

SOMETIME BEFORE EASTER
Organize or attend a children’s Easter Tea Party where they can celebrate a Passion Lunch and hear some Easter stories (find one fun Easter story and 1 Easter story that tells the real story to kids, decorate cookies, have tea, and do an egg hunt (if you’re into that, but I can tell you the kids LOVE it). Eggs represent rebirth and new life through Jesus Christ.
ON GOOD FRIDAY
Christian Passover Dinner – Directions below which also came from my mentor, Sandy Tallo. Do this on Good Friday! Hang a red rag on your door outside.
ON EASTER MORNING
SIN WIPED CLEAN – Leave a pile of rocks in a jar as you leave for church. The jar is the tomb Jesus was laid in. This represents sin. Cover it with a red cloth. This represents Jesus’ blood. After you load the kids into the car, someone has to sneak back into the house to empty the rocks and cover the tomb back with the red cloth. When your kids come home they will find the tomb empty. Celebrate with a quick music parade, sing hallelujah, shake a tambourine and ring bells! I like this song: https://youtu.be/JuQFGWAd7wQ AND this is joyful! https://youtu.be/Q4bJ8D6lvrk
GENERAL TIPS FROM MY MENTOR, SANDY TALLO
“If possible, use this time to have your children help with deep spring cleaning. Wash windows and floors, get cob webs down, give stuff you don’t use away!
 
Attend a good Friday service, talk about why this day is called good. 
 
The day before Easter finish cleaning, cooking, set the tables,  lay out prepared outfits for church, shine shoes, get fresh spring hair cuts, have bible time with little ones after dinner highlighting the resurrection. Pray together. After kids are in bed, prepare Easter baskets (bags)
 
Sunday- play Easter music, eat a quick, healthy breakfast, (go to a sunrise service), dress and get to church early, it’s the best part of the day! Don’t allow fighting and tardiness to ruin the day!
 
Invite family and friends for dinner, eat, talk, play and rejoice together.”
Love, Robyn
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Christian passover
1. Light candles- Jesus is the light of the world. ( oldest woman in the house)
Blessed are You, LORD our God, King of the universe,
Who sanctified us with his commandments, and commanded us to be a light to the nations
and Who gave to us Jesus our Messiah
the Light of the world.
But when the fulness of the time was come, God sent forth his Son, made of a woman, made under the law, (Galatians 4:4 KJV)
I have come as a light into the world, that whoever believes in Me should not abide in darkness. (John 12:46 NKJV)
2. The wine-
After the candles have been lit and everyone is seated around the Seder Table, we are ready to begin the Passover Seder by  pouring the “Cup of Sanctification” 
which means to set apart or make holy. When the LORD said that He would take the Israelites out from Egypt, He separated them and therefore sanctified them.
The Four Cups of wine used in the Seder symbolize four distinct promises made by God as told in Exodus 6:6-7. These are traditionally referred to as follows:
Cup of Sanctification – “I will bring you out (i.e., hotzeti: הוֹצֵאתִי) of Egypt”
Cup of Deliverance – “I will deliver you (i.e. hitzalti: הִצַּלְתִּי) from Egyptian slavery”
Cup of Redemption – “I will redeem you (i.e., ga’alti: גָאַלְתִּי) with My power”
Cup of Restoration – “I will take you (i.e., lakachti: לָקַחְתִּי) as My people”
   
Which cups did Jesus  drink during his early Passover Seder with his disciples? He drank the first two cups in the traditional way. At the third cup, the Cup of Redemption, he said: “This is my blood” (Matt. 26:27-39). Jesus told his disciples that He would not drink the fourth cup (the Cup of Restoration), but promised to do so with them in the coming Kingdom (Matt. 26:29), after the Great Tribulation when “all Israel shall be saved.” 
3- washing hands
The second activity of the traditional Passover Seder is to wash your hands before you eat.  
Q: “Why do we wash our hands?”
Who may ascend into the hill of the Lord? Or who may stand in His holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart, Who has not lifted up his soul to an idol, Nor sworn deceitfully. He shall receive blessing from the Lord, And righteousness from the God of his salvation. (Psalms 24:3-5 NKJV)
   
Hand Washing Procedure
The seder leader calls out, “U’rchatz!” and then everyone present will begin the ceremony of washing  their hands. 
Fill a cup or vessel with water and pour some over your right hand three times, then over your left hand three times. It is customary for children to present the towel to the guests as each person performs the ritual.
Jesus and Urchatz
It is possible that the Jesus washed His disciples feet at this point of the early Seder he had with the disciples. Imagine the disciples passing the urchatz pan from person to person for the ritual cleansing of hands. Then,
“Jesus laid aside his outer garments, and taking a towel, tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel that was wrapped around him. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, do you wash my feet?” Jesus answered him, “What I am doing you do not understand now, but afterward you will understand.”
Peter said to him, “You shall never wash my feet.” Jesus answered him, “If I do not wash you, you have no share with me.” Simon Peter said to him, “Lord, not my feet only but also my hands and my head!” Jesus said to him, “The one who has bathed does not need to wash, except for his feet, but is completely clean. And you are clean, but not every one of you.” For he knew who was to betray him; that was why he said, “Not all of you are clean.” When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you?” (John 13:4-12)
4. Parsley dipped in salt water
Why do we dip parsley in salt water?
The salt water represents the tears of the Israelites in bondage and the tears shed in our own lives at the remembrance that it’s our sin that nailed Jesus to the cross. 
Parsley represents the hyssop that the Israelites dipped in the blood of a lamb to paint the door post of their homes so that the angel of death would pass over it. 
Jesus is the lamb of God who was sacrificed for us and it’s by his blood we are saved.  
Return to your rest, O my soul, For the Lord has dealt bountifully with you. For You have delivered my soul from death, My eyes from tears, And my feet from falling. I will walk before the Lord In the land of the living. (Psalms 116:7-9 NKJV)
5-  matzo bread- 
The Seder leader takes the matzo, and breaks it in half. He then takes the larger piece and carefully wraps it in a linen cover. The leader then tells the children present to close their eyes and he hides the bread somewhere in the room.
Unleavened bread was taken by the Israelites the night of the exodus because there was no time to wait for bread to rise. They left in haste. 
Look at the bread it has stripes and holes. 
Jesus took 40 lashes/ stripes for our punishment and there were holes punctured into his body at the time of his crucifixion. 
7-bitter herbs- Maror 
Q: Why is this night different from other nights?
God told us to teach these things to our children. This is the night we’ve chosen to remember all that God has done for us.  
Serve bitter herbs in cracker. 
The most common vegetables used as bitter herbs are horseradish and romaine lettuce. Romaine lettuce is not initially bitter, but becomes so after the first taste, which is symbolic of the experience of the Jews in Egypt. 
Q: Why do we eat matzo and Maror?- bitterness of slavery both in Israel and in our own lives as we remember or own bondage to sin. 
“Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world. But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!” Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ. (Galatians 4:3-7 NKJV)
4. Mortar- (find recipe in Evernote!)
Q: Why is it that on all other nights we do not dip our herbs even once,
but on this night we eat them twice?
A:  We eat bitter herbs and Charoset to remind us of the bitterness of our slavery turned into the sweetness of freedom. The chopped apples and nuts look like clay used to make bricks for Pharaoah’s buildings. As We did parsley in salt water to remember the tears of our captivity.
Q: Why is it that on all other nights we eat sitting but on this night we eat in a reclining position with pillows?
   
A:  We lean on our pillows to remind us that we are now free and no longer live as slaves.
2 Cor 4:4 
7. Egg- symbol of new life in Christ. Everything needed to create life is in the egg. It also represents the triune nature of God. 
Slice eggs eat them dipped in salt water. 
8. The lamb- lift the bone as a reminder that
They would slaughter all the lambs brought to the courtyard. The blood of the lamb would be caught in a pan and then passed from one priest to another until it reached the priest standing at the altar, who would pour it out on the lower part of the altar. While this was happening, the Levites would be singing praise to the LORD.
   
Afterward, each lamb’s hide was pulled off, the flesh was salted, and certain parts were burned upon the altar to the LORD. Finally, the remainder was given to the offerer who took it home to be roasted whole over an open fire. The family would gather and eat some of the meat of the passover lamb with matzah and maror.
Jesus was found to be the true Lamb of God  without spot or blemish.
Like the original Passover in Egypt, the sacrifice of the Lamb causes the wrath of God to “pass over” those who are trusting in the LORD’s provision for redemption, but in the case of the sacrifice of the everlasting Son of God, this redemption delivers us from the cruel bondage of Satan and causes the everlasting wrath of God to forever be put away from us. Indeed, Jesus is the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world!
9. Finish the meal – after the meal Find the hidden matzo wrapped in linen. 
Q: why was the cracker wrapped in linen? Burial cloths
Q: Why was it hidden? Like in the tomb where Jesus’ body was hidden away. 
Before Jesus death he celebrated a passover meal with his disciples and when they were finished 
   He broke the bread and gave each one present a piece. “And when He had given thanks, He broke it and said, ‘This is my body, which is for you. Do this in remembrance of Me'” (Matt 26:26). 
Jesus had told His disciples that He was the Bread of Life (John 6:48).
He also had told them:
“I am the living bread that came down from heaven. If anyone eats of this bread, he will live forever. And the bread that I will give for the life of the world is my flesh” (John 6:51).
We hold the unleavened bread and consider its purity (leaven is a symbol of sin, and Jesus was sinless). We look at the stripes and pierced holes in it. We remember that Jesus was without sin, striped by the Roman’s whip and pierced by nails and the soldier’s spear. 
Jesus’ sacrifice of atonement was for our sins so that we might have peace with God. When we eat of the broken matzah, we remember that He allowed His body to be broken as our sacrifice for sin, and we thank God for that He was willing to be the Lamb of God who came to bear the sins of the world. 
10. The wine- 
Since the New Testament says explicitly that Jesus  took the bread and wine “after (the Passover) supper” (Luke 22:20, 1 Cor. 11:25) it is clear that this cup, the Cup of Redemption, is the one He raised when He said, “This cup is the New Covenant in my blood, which is shed for you” (Matt. 26:27-39). The Cup of Redemption commemorates the shed blood of the innocent lamb that brought redemption from Egypt, but it even more fully commemorates the greater redemption provided by the shed blood of Jesus.
For the believer in Jesus, this cup also symbolizes our participation in the  (marriage contract) of the New Covenant, in which the groom signified his pledge by sharing a cup of wine with His bride, therefore, it was originally intended to be the model for the Christian practice of Communion (or the “Lord’s Supper”).
Jesus had earlier said to his disciples, “I am the Vine and you are the branches” (John 15:5). When we trust in Him as our Savior, we become the “fruit of the vine” and become a part of his body. 
Note: Jesus told his disciples that He would not drink the fourth cup (the Cup of Restoration), but promised to do so with them in the coming Kingdom (Matt. 26:29), after the Great Tribulation when “all Israel shall be saved.”
The leader says: “This cup represents our great hope that someday soon the messiah is coming back to both take His followers to be with Him and to fulfill his promises. In that great day, all Israel shall be saved and the followers of Jesus will reign with Him in the millennial kingdom of God upon the earth. 
For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the shofar blast of God: and the dead in Messiah shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.” 
“The LORD bless you and keep you;
the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; 
the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.”