I listened to two ladies, Jenny and Jodi, discuss lying: myths, root cause, questions to ask, and how to stop lying in its tracks.
What I loved is:
- How they defined lying in concrete terms that my kids can understand. For example, an exaggeration is when you add untrue parts to a story.
- They were very specific using examples that we can relate to our own situations.
- They were honest about their own experience with lying.
- They break it down so you can get to the heart of your child, deal with the issue and move the child forward in a productive way.
- Their solution seems logical but it takes time… about a year.
- They have helped about 300 families with this problem, so they seem to have some proof that it works.
I now feel I have a method I can use to discourage lying, other than the old ‘you lied, so now you get punished’.
I strongly recommend you read their two posts here: