The perfect homeschool week

I’m imagining the perfect homeschool week for my family next year.

We would start every day with a healthy breakfast and clean up the dishes right away. We would brush our teeth, and make our beds. Then the kitchen would close.

We would worship God, read the Bible, and do a character study. Then we would go on a walk and picnic somewhere outside.

We would come home by 2pm for rest time. My baby would take a nap. Family story time would begin, with memory work, and art lessons. Clean up to the CC Timeline Song. Prep dinner together, and kids set the table. A little more schoolwork done.

At dinner, tell Dad about our character lesson, play “stump Daddy” with memory work, recite scripture, listen to Dad’s lesson and devotion.

Clean up dinner and table to timeline song.

Reading time before bedtime. Memory work. Reading lesson for our middle child would happen again.

Grocery shopping would happen on Wednesday afternoons. Kids will get lessons in counting money and reading food labels. Meal prep and house cleaning would happen on Thursdays with help from children. Friday we would have afternoon showers and bath, with a last minute spruce up, and the table will get set nicely for a Christian version of Shabbat dinner using easy disposable ware, Saturday’s meal would be prepped and put into the crock pot, and Friday’s roast would go into the oven in a disposable tin. We would entertain friends on Friday night and see how we can minister to others.

Saturday we would have a prepared breakfast such as fruit, and quiche or bekoras. We would skip making our beds. We would go play outside somehow, and we would enjoy a large afternoon meal which I had already prepared the day before.

Sunday, we would start the week refreshed and ready to start again. I would use Sunday afternoon for homeschool prep, meal planning, and bulk item grocery shopping.

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Winding down first grade and ramping up my preschooler

I’m already focused on next year’s schooling. This is a result of all the homeschool publishers running sales, and awaiting the new Foundations Guide from Classical Conversations (CC). We are closing out our second full year of CC, and our fifth year of homeschooling, since I ambitiously and unnecessarily started my own homeschool cooperative with some close friends when my firstborn was just 18 months old in Atlanta. It was a glorified play date, but it showed me the beauty of coops – close mom friends, like-minded people, the power of “scale” and positive peer pressure.

I had been in my own coop till my oldest was 4, but in two cities – Atlanta, then Rochester. Then I did two coops run by other people – loved it, and learned a lot! That last year in Rochester, I also did CC at home with just the music CDs for Cycle 1. Seeing the fruit of the teaching methodology, and knowing the benefit of community, I joined my first CC community when we moved to CA the next year for Cycle 2. And here we are ending Cycle 3. For these two years I’ve also belonged to another homeschool coop.

As I consider next year, I realize I’m juggling the needs of a 6.5 year old, 3.5 year old, and a rising toddler. For the first time, we get to repeat a Cycle (Cycle 1), and really add another learner to our one room schoolhouse (my rising 4 year old). As we ease our way into learning that has a little more rigor for my oldest, introducing “the same old” for my second (with a different learning style), and meeting the normal baby needs for my youngest, I have really met the word called “multi-tasking” in ways I hadn’t known it before. On most days my water intake is poor and I haven’t fully taken care of my own needs. I leave room for the fact that I’m coming out of the fog of having a newborn (who is now almost 14 months old), and every three months she leapfrogs her abilities and schedules shift.

All that to say, I’m closing out this year by maintaining my commitments, but I know I’m only doing just ONE coop next year – CC. I’m following God’s calling to downsize my life of activities and upsize my life in quality. I’m removing breadth in exchange for depth and balance. I’ve added a Shabbat dinner and it’s following sabbath rest – it has taken a lot of energy to do this, but it’s been worth it.

Over the summer, I will get down to the business of letter recognition and phonics for my preschooler, and big time lessons in obedience. Spelling, language lessons, handwriting, and creative storytelling for my rising second grader will capture his attention. We will work on drilling math memory too, for the basic arithmetic functions, and work diligently through the rest of first grade Singapore math while we learn abacus alongside together. We will maintain our priorities for learning the Bible, godly character, and scripture memory. And we will add back swimming. If I’m on top of it, we will finish first language lessons book 1, and song school Latin book 1 as well.

I will start building in an exercise and movement regimen for all of us. Right now, my children and husband get it but I’m missing out dearly. I will cut down on the sugar intake, and start cleansing our palates in quite a strict manner.

We will take advantage of the beautiful outdoors and hike and camp, and explore with friends. We will go whale watching, and elephant seal observing, and sea otter snooping. We will watch sunsets and see monarchs migrating. We will traipse through brush-land, and wade through marshlands. We will watch waves crashing and sit beside rivers. We will see plays and symphonies, ballets and orchestras. We will go on dates and have family days. We will be God’s creation and enjoy His creation and marvel at the work of His hands. The heavens declare the glory of God, The skies proclaim the work of His hands. We will exalt Him with our own works and words and adoration.

Piano is the only thing that doesn’t halt or change rhythms from the traditional school year to summer.

When school starts again, I will start my oldest in Veritas Press’ Ancient History and Old Testament & Genesis to Joshua Bible online programs, and we will do CC, spelling and math with more rigor. We will play more games. My middle child will learn how to read and I will learn how to have more balance, joy, and diligence.

In the meantime, we will worship the Lord God Almighty, and we will pray. We will ask God to order our days and plan our steps, because He already has done it. We will walk in obedience.

The sorrow of social media

God asked me to abstain from social media a while ago. Not just social media, but also YouTube and Netflix. I obliged.

I looked at Facebook some today and yesterday as my Daniel fast was over. And I realized that peering into other people’s lives makes me feel sad and lonely.

The purpose of social media is to share your life and stay connected to friends. But it offers a shallow connection, and a fake friendship.

Real friends reach out to see how you are doing. Real friends ask you over for tea. Real friends are interested in your life too.

I’d always known a poor friend is one who only talks about themselves when you call them on the phone. This is social media.

Easter Devotions, Traditions, Food and More

Hi all,
As you’re preparing for Easter Week, I thought you might enjoy some ideas. Don’t let them overwhelm you, either. I rarely send emails like this, however, Easter and Christmas are the most important holidays of the year.
1. DEVOTION
See the attached devotion from Billy Graham. As your kids get older and older, they will grow in their appreciation of devotions. If you want to make it more memorable, read it after the sun goes down in candlelight. We tend to read these things during dinner, while everyone is a captive audience.
2. MUSIC
Seeds Family Worship’s “Seeds of Easter” songs – what a great way to hear the Easter story and memorize the Word. See this sample. (You would memorize Rev 5:12, John 14:6, 1 John 5:11-12, Rom 5:8, Rom 6:23, John 3:16, Rom 8:38-39, and 2 Cor 5:17)
The Harrow Family’s CD: A New Commandment includes John 3:16 in “For God so Loved the World”, and John 14:6 in “I am the Way”, and John 14:23 in “If anyone loves me”
The Harrow Family’s CD: All Nations Shall Worship includes John 10:7-8 in “I am the Door”
In general, the Harrow Family and Seeds Family Worship are the two go to music choices for our family, and has helped all of us store God’s word in our hearts more joyfully and effectively. We play these every. single. day. in the background, or watch the videos during breakfast sometimes. Seeds Family Worship has videos with hand motions to some of the songs.

3. FOOD

Resurrection Rolls – melt butter and dip large marshmallows in the butter. Dip the marshmallow in equal parts cinnamon sugar. Wrap in a crescent roll. Bake according to the crescent roll directions. When your kids take a bite, they will see the tomb empty.
Resurrection Cake – Cut the tombs entrance out of the side of a cake. Make the tomb big enough to put a battery operated tea light inside.  Turn the light on right before you serve the cake after sundown. Take turns saying what Jesus’ sacrifice has meant to you this year. Each person should take a turn. Little kids who are too young for that, can tell you for what they are grateful. Close by saying a prayer thanking Jesus for dying on the cross for us and conquering death and sin so we can live forever with Him in freedom.
Easter Bread – http://www.laurainthekitchen.com/recipes/italian-easter-sweet-bread/ I add anise sometimes, but it’s not what everyone loves… it’s a licorice flavor.

4. TRADITIONS

SOMETIME BEFORE EASTER
Organize or attend a children’s Easter Tea Party where they can celebrate a Passion Lunch and hear some Easter stories (find one fun Easter story and 1 Easter story that tells the real story to kids, decorate cookies, have tea, and do an egg hunt (if you’re into that, but I can tell you the kids LOVE it). Eggs represent rebirth and new life through Jesus Christ.
ON GOOD FRIDAY
Christian Passover Dinner – Directions below which also came from my mentor, Sandy Tallo. Do this on Good Friday! Hang a red rag on your door outside.
ON EASTER MORNING
SIN WIPED CLEAN – Leave a pile of rocks in a jar as you leave for church. The jar is the tomb Jesus was laid in. This represents sin. Cover it with a red cloth. This represents Jesus’ blood. After you load the kids into the car, someone has to sneak back into the house to empty the rocks and cover the tomb back with the red cloth. When your kids come home they will find the tomb empty. Celebrate with a quick music parade, sing hallelujah, shake a tambourine and ring bells! I like this song: https://youtu.be/JuQFGWAd7wQ AND this is joyful! https://youtu.be/Q4bJ8D6lvrk
GENERAL TIPS FROM MY MENTOR, SANDY TALLO
“If possible, use this time to have your children help with deep spring cleaning. Wash windows and floors, get cob webs down, give stuff you don’t use away!
 
Attend a good Friday service, talk about why this day is called good. 
 
The day before Easter finish cleaning, cooking, set the tables,  lay out prepared outfits for church, shine shoes, get fresh spring hair cuts, have bible time with little ones after dinner highlighting the resurrection. Pray together. After kids are in bed, prepare Easter baskets (bags)
 
Sunday- play Easter music, eat a quick, healthy breakfast, (go to a sunrise service), dress and get to church early, it’s the best part of the day! Don’t allow fighting and tardiness to ruin the day!
 
Invite family and friends for dinner, eat, talk, play and rejoice together.”
Love, Robyn
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Christian passover
1. Light candles- Jesus is the light of the world. ( oldest woman in the house)
Blessed are You, LORD our God, King of the universe,
Who sanctified us with his commandments, and commanded us to be a light to the nations
and Who gave to us Jesus our Messiah
the Light of the world.
But when the fulness of the time was come, God sent forth his Son, made of a woman, made under the law, (Galatians 4:4 KJV)
I have come as a light into the world, that whoever believes in Me should not abide in darkness. (John 12:46 NKJV)
2. The wine-
After the candles have been lit and everyone is seated around the Seder Table, we are ready to begin the Passover Seder by  pouring the “Cup of Sanctification” 
which means to set apart or make holy. When the LORD said that He would take the Israelites out from Egypt, He separated them and therefore sanctified them.
The Four Cups of wine used in the Seder symbolize four distinct promises made by God as told in Exodus 6:6-7. These are traditionally referred to as follows:
Cup of Sanctification – “I will bring you out (i.e., hotzeti: הוֹצֵאתִי) of Egypt”
Cup of Deliverance – “I will deliver you (i.e. hitzalti: הִצַּלְתִּי) from Egyptian slavery”
Cup of Redemption – “I will redeem you (i.e., ga’alti: גָאַלְתִּי) with My power”
Cup of Restoration – “I will take you (i.e., lakachti: לָקַחְתִּי) as My people”
   
Which cups did Jesus  drink during his early Passover Seder with his disciples? He drank the first two cups in the traditional way. At the third cup, the Cup of Redemption, he said: “This is my blood” (Matt. 26:27-39). Jesus told his disciples that He would not drink the fourth cup (the Cup of Restoration), but promised to do so with them in the coming Kingdom (Matt. 26:29), after the Great Tribulation when “all Israel shall be saved.” 
3- washing hands
The second activity of the traditional Passover Seder is to wash your hands before you eat.  
Q: “Why do we wash our hands?”
Who may ascend into the hill of the Lord? Or who may stand in His holy place? He who has clean hands and a pure heart, Who has not lifted up his soul to an idol, Nor sworn deceitfully. He shall receive blessing from the Lord, And righteousness from the God of his salvation. (Psalms 24:3-5 NKJV)
   
Hand Washing Procedure
The seder leader calls out, “U’rchatz!” and then everyone present will begin the ceremony of washing  their hands. 
Fill a cup or vessel with water and pour some over your right hand three times, then over your left hand three times. It is customary for children to present the towel to the guests as each person performs the ritual.
Jesus and Urchatz
It is possible that the Jesus washed His disciples feet at this point of the early Seder he had with the disciples. Imagine the disciples passing the urchatz pan from person to person for the ritual cleansing of hands. Then,
“Jesus laid aside his outer garments, and taking a towel, tied it around his waist. Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel that was wrapped around him. He came to Simon Peter, who said to him, “Lord, do you wash my feet?” Jesus answered him, “What I am doing you do not understand now, but afterward you will understand.”
Peter said to him, “You shall never wash my feet.” Jesus answered him, “If I do not wash you, you have no share with me.” Simon Peter said to him, “Lord, not my feet only but also my hands and my head!” Jesus said to him, “The one who has bathed does not need to wash, except for his feet, but is completely clean. And you are clean, but not every one of you.” For he knew who was to betray him; that was why he said, “Not all of you are clean.” When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, “Do you understand what I have done to you?” (John 13:4-12)
4. Parsley dipped in salt water
Why do we dip parsley in salt water?
The salt water represents the tears of the Israelites in bondage and the tears shed in our own lives at the remembrance that it’s our sin that nailed Jesus to the cross. 
Parsley represents the hyssop that the Israelites dipped in the blood of a lamb to paint the door post of their homes so that the angel of death would pass over it. 
Jesus is the lamb of God who was sacrificed for us and it’s by his blood we are saved.  
Return to your rest, O my soul, For the Lord has dealt bountifully with you. For You have delivered my soul from death, My eyes from tears, And my feet from falling. I will walk before the Lord In the land of the living. (Psalms 116:7-9 NKJV)
5-  matzo bread- 
The Seder leader takes the matzo, and breaks it in half. He then takes the larger piece and carefully wraps it in a linen cover. The leader then tells the children present to close their eyes and he hides the bread somewhere in the room.
Unleavened bread was taken by the Israelites the night of the exodus because there was no time to wait for bread to rise. They left in haste. 
Look at the bread it has stripes and holes. 
Jesus took 40 lashes/ stripes for our punishment and there were holes punctured into his body at the time of his crucifixion. 
7-bitter herbs- Maror 
Q: Why is this night different from other nights?
God told us to teach these things to our children. This is the night we’ve chosen to remember all that God has done for us.  
Serve bitter herbs in cracker. 
The most common vegetables used as bitter herbs are horseradish and romaine lettuce. Romaine lettuce is not initially bitter, but becomes so after the first taste, which is symbolic of the experience of the Jews in Egypt. 
Q: Why do we eat matzo and Maror?- bitterness of slavery both in Israel and in our own lives as we remember or own bondage to sin. 
“Even so we, when we were children, were in bondage under the elements of the world. But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. And because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into your hearts, crying out, “Abba, Father!” Therefore you are no longer a slave but a son, and if a son, then an heir of God through Christ. (Galatians 4:3-7 NKJV)
4. Mortar- (find recipe in Evernote!)
Q: Why is it that on all other nights we do not dip our herbs even once,
but on this night we eat them twice?
A:  We eat bitter herbs and Charoset to remind us of the bitterness of our slavery turned into the sweetness of freedom. The chopped apples and nuts look like clay used to make bricks for Pharaoah’s buildings. As We did parsley in salt water to remember the tears of our captivity.
Q: Why is it that on all other nights we eat sitting but on this night we eat in a reclining position with pillows?
   
A:  We lean on our pillows to remind us that we are now free and no longer live as slaves.
2 Cor 4:4 
7. Egg- symbol of new life in Christ. Everything needed to create life is in the egg. It also represents the triune nature of God. 
Slice eggs eat them dipped in salt water. 
8. The lamb- lift the bone as a reminder that
They would slaughter all the lambs brought to the courtyard. The blood of the lamb would be caught in a pan and then passed from one priest to another until it reached the priest standing at the altar, who would pour it out on the lower part of the altar. While this was happening, the Levites would be singing praise to the LORD.
   
Afterward, each lamb’s hide was pulled off, the flesh was salted, and certain parts were burned upon the altar to the LORD. Finally, the remainder was given to the offerer who took it home to be roasted whole over an open fire. The family would gather and eat some of the meat of the passover lamb with matzah and maror.
Jesus was found to be the true Lamb of God  without spot or blemish.
Like the original Passover in Egypt, the sacrifice of the Lamb causes the wrath of God to “pass over” those who are trusting in the LORD’s provision for redemption, but in the case of the sacrifice of the everlasting Son of God, this redemption delivers us from the cruel bondage of Satan and causes the everlasting wrath of God to forever be put away from us. Indeed, Jesus is the Lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world!
9. Finish the meal – after the meal Find the hidden matzo wrapped in linen. 
Q: why was the cracker wrapped in linen? Burial cloths
Q: Why was it hidden? Like in the tomb where Jesus’ body was hidden away. 
Before Jesus death he celebrated a passover meal with his disciples and when they were finished 
   He broke the bread and gave each one present a piece. “And when He had given thanks, He broke it and said, ‘This is my body, which is for you. Do this in remembrance of Me'” (Matt 26:26). 
Jesus had told His disciples that He was the Bread of Life (John 6:48).
He also had told them:
“I am the living bread that came down from heaven. If anyone eats of this bread, he will live forever. And the bread that I will give for the life of the world is my flesh” (John 6:51).
We hold the unleavened bread and consider its purity (leaven is a symbol of sin, and Jesus was sinless). We look at the stripes and pierced holes in it. We remember that Jesus was without sin, striped by the Roman’s whip and pierced by nails and the soldier’s spear. 
Jesus’ sacrifice of atonement was for our sins so that we might have peace with God. When we eat of the broken matzah, we remember that He allowed His body to be broken as our sacrifice for sin, and we thank God for that He was willing to be the Lamb of God who came to bear the sins of the world. 
10. The wine- 
Since the New Testament says explicitly that Jesus  took the bread and wine “after (the Passover) supper” (Luke 22:20, 1 Cor. 11:25) it is clear that this cup, the Cup of Redemption, is the one He raised when He said, “This cup is the New Covenant in my blood, which is shed for you” (Matt. 26:27-39). The Cup of Redemption commemorates the shed blood of the innocent lamb that brought redemption from Egypt, but it even more fully commemorates the greater redemption provided by the shed blood of Jesus.
For the believer in Jesus, this cup also symbolizes our participation in the  (marriage contract) of the New Covenant, in which the groom signified his pledge by sharing a cup of wine with His bride, therefore, it was originally intended to be the model for the Christian practice of Communion (or the “Lord’s Supper”).
Jesus had earlier said to his disciples, “I am the Vine and you are the branches” (John 15:5). When we trust in Him as our Savior, we become the “fruit of the vine” and become a part of his body. 
Note: Jesus told his disciples that He would not drink the fourth cup (the Cup of Restoration), but promised to do so with them in the coming Kingdom (Matt. 26:29), after the Great Tribulation when “all Israel shall be saved.”
The leader says: “This cup represents our great hope that someday soon the messiah is coming back to both take His followers to be with Him and to fulfill his promises. In that great day, all Israel shall be saved and the followers of Jesus will reign with Him in the millennial kingdom of God upon the earth. 
For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the shofar blast of God: and the dead in Messiah shall rise first: Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.” 
“The LORD bless you and keep you;
the LORD make his face to shine upon you and be gracious to you; 
the LORD lift up his countenance upon you and give you peace.”

Homeschool days in a time of silence

God has asked me to back out and cut off most of my activity with the outside world, and I have submitted my will to prefer whatever God has for me.

My homeschool is quieter. I have had a reputation of “doing” a lot with my kids. God blessed me with some “rhema” about them. He gave a lamb’s wool fleece to my oldest, and a hammer to my middle one (in a vision on Feb 10). Then he told me my middle one will be a drummer at the end of that month (in rhema).

I wanted to share one thing He taught me this month in visions.

One, I saw plates spinning in the air. I was spinning them all. When I let go, some fell but didn’t break. This meant when I give all my things to Jesus, He really DOES take care of it!

Two, I was a bird flying in the air with my children who were also birds. Then I saw us in each of our own nests. One nest was empty. Then a snake came for my children and its head was cut off. A male lion with full mane leapt towards my children and it was sliced in half. This meant that to care for my children I need to keep flying too. The Holy Spirit reminded me there is dead air. But He didn’t give us any dead air space. Our air is filled by His Spirit, so we can really fly. The empty nest means we will have more children. And the enemies launching at us who are split in half is the judgment He issues on them. We will not be harmed though we are attacked.

These two visions have one voice: Trust Jesus will ALL my concerns. I CAN rest in HIM. He is a fiercer mama bear than I will ever be! Amen!

Since I am learning how to do this every hour and every day, I am seeing what real rest looks and feels like. I am so excited for this transformation. Granted, I still overwhelm myself, but I am learning what God said He would teach me: precision and acuity.

Thank Jesus for Him!!

A Blessing of Labor

I’m sitting right now, in-between work. I told myself, to bless my husband this Valentine’s Day, I would welcome him home with peace. To him, that is interpreted by an orderly home, a clean home, and a happy wife and children. So I’m serving a dinner I think the children will enjoy eating.

We started the day by playing a homeschool game, however, we have set aside the majority of traditional schoolwork in order to put away and clean, and create this blessing for Dad later.

We will set the table, rearrange some artificial flowers together, create a sand & candlelight  centerpiece, and put some confetti down for flare. We will also create a playlist of music. My oldest son wanted to choose some Charlie Brown music, since he and his father share that together.

Off and on, I’ve done a better and worse job of keeping our home, depending on the season we are in with new babies, and also where my heart is with the Lord. But I find myself intent on serving my husband in his love language: service. Yesterday, I mowed the lawn and swept the walkway and sidewalk. If we have time, I’ll clean up the back yard as well. AND at some point, my oldest will sit and do some math. In the meantime, while cleaning we are listening to our homeschool music, learning by hearing.

I’m not patting myself on the back here, just sharing an example of having a heart of service that has taken me many, many, many years to learn.

How are you loving on your family today?

Anniversary Thoughts

Hello there.

We’ve been married 13 years tomorrow, and we are celebrating tonight with a date. Let’s see what the numbers say about our lives.

36. Thirty-six year’s alive on this Earth. Glad for it.

17. Seventeen years since my father passed through Heaven’s gates. Miss him.

13. Thirteen years married, and more in love than when we began.

20. Twenty years with Ian… a boyfriend turned into a partner in the purest and most whole sense of the word.

4. Four years away from Atlanta. Still miss it dearly.

3. Three beautiful children to love. My heart is full.

2. There are at least 2 more children waiting to be born into our lives in some way or another, whether by our own genes or adoption.

2. Twice we have moved since marriage.

Endless. The number of times we’ve said sorry and forgiven each other.

The recipe for marital bliss is simple. Serve the other person. Say sorry and mean it. Say I love you through your actions. In a book I’ve read, the authors suggested it takes 11 years to BEGIN being LESS selfish – I’ve quoted them before – “Real Marriage”, by Mark Driscoll and his wife, is the book. I think the authors are right. It’s easy to do things that make you happy. It’s harder to do things out of bringing joy ONLY to the other person in your life, and making their joy enough to elicit your own joy.

My hair dresser, whom I adore, was saying she gets bored after 3 years of dating someone. She says she gets restless. She was asking me questions about marriage. I assured her that, at least in my case, I’m more enamored than when we started. But  it’s the product of work. And it’s the product of the Holy Spirit working in my husband’s life to make him more like Jesus, and therefore, even better than better (in my eyes).

Ladies, what I think we are missing in our culture is a desire to serve our spouses. We are told we should be waited on hand and foot. I’m sorry to say this, but we don’t live in a fairy tale. There’s no Cinderella servant who is going to come into your life and sweep your floors in most people’s homes (at least in my circle of friends). So, guess who does the sweeping? You do. There’s no Dr. Phil who is going to talk sense into your spouse when you’re angry, and who is going to talk you off a ledge. Guess who’s going to soften his reply with a kinder response, an understanding reply, and a gentle consideration of his dreams and thoughts and feelings? You are. Guess who’s going to have to learn to bite her tongue? You are. And when you can remember to brighten your smile and put a little effort into your appearance (not superficially, but come on, act like you’re dating sometimes), you will remind him of why he works so hard for your family. When you can demonstrate graciousness, and gratitude, guess who wants to come home from work as soon as possible? While you can’t be perfect, and no one can… and while you can’t shelter him from the stress of his work or life in general… you can be his wife… the one he desires to come home to after a hard day. And there’s much to be said for that. There’s much to be said for the couple who still choose each other.